The more happy, fulfilled, and successful a person is, the less they are inclined to make excuses.
A main difference between a person that drives change, creates value and drives projects and a person that doesn’t achieve much, is how they see excuses. The more successful the individual, the less they are inclined in coming up with excuses.
“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” ― Benjamin Franklin
A person that goes nowhere, has no plans for growing or doing something meaningful, can find lots of reasons to explain why this is happening.
Excuses can transform you into the victim of your own life
The thing is that these people are victims of their own mindset. They are the ones that can quickly explain why they haven’t, why they don’t, why they can’t or aren’t.
Usually, their story goes like this …” I’m not doing as well as I should. I don’t know what to do, I am afraid that if I ask for help or direction I will look stupid. It can be my health or my lack of education and training. It can even my age, my religion, and my beliefs. I am not the right person for the job. It is my family and my past that made this impossible”.
Once we are making an excuse, once we develop a story around it, it becomes embedded deep without our mind. Thoughts grow from that excuse. At first, we know that the story that we come up with is simply a lie. In time, the more we are focusing on it, the more true it becomes.
Unfortunately, excuses feel great
Most of the time, excuses feel great, they make us feel much better about ourselves. When we tell our friends why we can’t do something, we think that we gain sympathy, that we create deeper bonds with them. That is simply an illusion. The thing that we get from coming up with excuses, is the contrary. We are not gaining sympathy, we are losing trust.
When we are complaining, we are actually giving others a reason why we are not good enough.
Excuses appear in a wide variety of forms, like:
- I don’t have enough education and training
- I don’t have enough time
- It is too difficult
- I don’t have enough money
- I just don’t have any luck
- People are holding me back
- I am afraid of making mistakes
- I am too old, or too sick
In the end, all excuses are doing only one thing. They keep us stuck.
Now, take a moment and think about those things that you really want in your life. It can be a career, a dream house, the perfect partner for you, the love of your life, enough money and respect. Can you find an excuse for why things are not happening the way you want?
If you can, you are stuck.
All of us are stuck at some point in our lives. Achieving goals is not a straight line from A to B. On the contrary, is quite a hard thing, we face challenges and setbacks. Jordan Belfort says “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”
The good thing is that the story can change
We are the ones that have the power to do that. With interest and enthusiasm, we can create a story about how we can achieve those things.
Once we start to believe that, once we start to make steps toward our goals, our mindset changes. The more we focus on the positive aspects, the more our mindset develops in this direction. The more we focus on excuses, the more our mindset develops in that direction.
It is all in your own hands. Just as Steve Maraboli says “At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets.”
Now it’s YOUR turn
- The story you tell to yourself each day is based on an excuse or an exciting opportunity?
- How often do you think about your future? How does your future looks like?
Through this article series, we are helping you build a solid mindset. We are strong believers that once we can understand a subject, we can engage with the idea or refuse it altogether. Both ways are helping us grow and develop our own way of seeing the world.
In the end, everything starts with us, with our mind, our self, and even our stories. Choose to act now on Studylia.