No matter what we want to do, we have to make a decision at some point about it.
The truth is that we love to make easy decisions and we hate to make the hard ones. We love to think that the world is simple, that it is a black and white world, but in reality, it is actually a sum of all the shades of gray, points of view, and decisions. Even if we decide to delay making a decision or not take it at all, we still make a decision.
When we read a book, watch a movie, choose a career or a partner, first something have to get our interest, catch our attention. It might be the title, the flashing ad, a good-looking figure, a mark of strength, or a shadow of weakness. It might be a recommendation or the effect of a cause we can’t determine or understand at that moment.
In the end, we make a decision based on these things, that might be incomplete, inaccurate, or simply wrong. However, we make the decision nonetheless.
Decision – “Is either that or that”
Usually, when we make it, we have at least two things to choose between — “Is either that or that”. The interesting part is that if we have more things to choose from, we trim them down to two, and then we chose one or the other. Here. if we look closely at this behavior, we can see that we are choosing based on an OR mindset.
In his book, Built to Last, Jim Collins introduces a concept called “The tyranny of OR”, referring to companies that choose between two solutions… A or B. However I believe that the concept is not only resuming at companies but to all of us, every day.
We are trapped by the “tyranny of OR” so often and so much that we hardly see it anymore. It is burnt deep into our mindset.
- I’m going to a movie OR I stay at home?
- To read a book OR to watch a movie?
- I drink coffee OR drink a cup of tea?
- I make the decision now OR I delay it to a later time?
This is a pattern of thinking, of making decisions. It is a way we create our lives. Every one of us is a balance artist.
Now it’s YOUR turn
- Are you making decisions using the OR mindset?
- Can you accept that things can be more than they appear at first sight?
Through this article series, we are helping you build a solid mindset. We are strong believers that once we can understand a subject, we can engage with the idea or refuse it altogether. Both ways are helping us grow and develop our own way of seeing the world.
In the end, everything starts with us, with our mind, our self, and even our stories. Choose to act now on Studylia.